I've had sex a bunch of times with different guys and once with a girl but I've never once had an orgasm. I masturbate a couple times a week butI feel like something's wrong with me and I don't know how to fix n I was hoping you'd be able to give some advice..? or anything to help really
Only about 20-25% of women can achieve orgasm through sexual intercourse, it has no bearing on how many or who you’ve had sex with, so first thing you need to realise is that what you’re going through is not uncommon so you can stop worrying about it. Relaxing about that point will help for a start.
There is a small percentage of women who can’t orgasm, or when they do it doesn’t feel like anything. How you’d know this, I don’t know, and how to cure it, if that’s possible, is again unknown to me.
Masturbating is all well and good, however it depends if you masturbate correctly. If you use toys. If it’s purely clitoral play you indulge in or vaginal stimulation too.
The truth is I’m not a woman. And the varied array of ways you can masturbate escape me. Sure i’ve played with toys with my lovers but it’s a totally different thing when done by yourself. You would be better off consulting a trained counsellor (you can find them online) or speak to one of the lovely ladies on Tumblr who might be able to help you with this.
So had to work today to train for new things and I managed to get talking to this girl who works in the spa, just me and her for like 20 minutes, it was AWESOME, because she’s super beautiful and lovely and funny and gorgeous and does her eye make-up with that funky swishy tail thing….gorgeous!
And I didn’t trip over my tongue more than 3 times the whole conversation!
"Simple things please simple minds!" and mine is pretty damn pleased right now! ;)
Who would you date from Tumblr and are any close to you?
I won’t say who, but let me just think for a moment.
3 live in England (1 of whom doesn’t have a tumblr any more but I don’t care)
2 live in Netherlands.
5 live in the USA.
4 in Australia.
That is based purely on the blogs I follow. There is 1 other lady from the UK and one from Sweden who I would also be proud to date, but I don’t follow them. However, being footloose and fancy free I can say that there are just so many gorgeous ladies who I would be proud to date that it might be difficult to say! :) (yes I’m a Tumblrslut!)
I know sex is the most important thing for you but what would you say is most important for a relationship other than that?
You’re wrong straight from the start. I like sex, I like it a lot, but it’s nowhere near the most important.
The most important thing is a connection. It’s something that means different things to everyone, it could be sexual, but doesn’t need to be.
For me it’s being able to be yourself, to relax with them, to be able to do all those silly, cute things together without worry. Someone who needs me, someone who appreciates me. Someone who wants me in their life. That’s more important than any sex I could have.
have you picked out any children's names for your kids?
Not right now as i’m not expecting any, at least I don’t think so! :O hehe
I have two problems in that regard. My surname is not one that fits well with many names, so it takes a lot of thought to find one that’s not already used with another family member. Plus i’m terrible at never finishing things, because i can never accept when something is finished. Like my work projects and such I keep working on and tinkering with, so the anxiety of finally assigning a name to a mini-person for the rest of their life would most probably kill me!
However, I have always wanted to call my daughter Isabella, so I could call her Belle. This has been forever complicated due to the embolism that is Twilight, so I don’t know if I could have a daughter named so close to Bella!
I like many names, but as I said before, not many fit my surname so I would need help with that when/if I ever have kids. Naming will be my partners job I think! ha! (or it’ll never get done) They could end up being called “Child 1”, “Child 2” and “Youngest” just to change it up!
I didn't mean it the way you took it. It just seems you get so many asks saying how great you are that your answer seems almost automatic. And in all honestly I really do enjoy your blog and think you're awesome.
I can assure you that each and every reply I give is meant with 101% sincerity and appreciation. If I do come off “automatic” in any way it’s because I find it hard to believe that anyone could feel about me the way some people seem to say. This is not meaning I don’t believe people in what they say, merely that I can’t see it. It’s all based in my self-loathing-realism and low self-esteem.
However, it’s because of the lovely messages I receive that I’m able to even function around women I find attractive in the real world. Sure I stumble over my words and end up making a fool of myself, but I wouldn’t even get that far if it wasn’t for the wonderful women of Tumblr.
I love how you dismiss us. We are over here complimenting you and saying how we wish you were part of our lives. While you're just like yeah yeah you'll find someone for you. Either way you're awesome!
I’m as much a part of your lives as I can be. However, you’re the one who is anonymously messaging me. If you wanted me to be more involved in your life then you’d be open with me as much as I try to be open with everyone.
I’ve expressed regrets before, regrets about how I wished I could be with all of you. How I see so many lovely ladies who are upset and I just wish I could be there as a shoulder to cry on, to offer support, but I can’t. And you will NEVER understand how much that tears me up inside! I’ve seen very close friends here really hurting and i’ve been almost powerless to help.
I can’t be with any of you, not in general, because I don’t live near any of you. So how can you hold that against me? Also how can a suggestion of support for you to meet someone be dismissive? I don’t understand your point in the slightest.
OH and I accepted that compliment from that anon, but the statement was “a man LIKE you” not ME, MYSELF, but someone like me. So I responded in kind, reassuring them that they would find someone perfect them!!
Giving a backhanded compliment does not bolster your case in any way.
I love how you give all this advice to people, and accept that you're handsome but not really good looking and accept all these compliments but still you seem level headed and nice. Regardless of what you look like I could really do with a man like you in my life. your really wonderful.
Awww Thank You sweetheart! I’m sure you’ll meet someone perfect for you very soon!